My daughter is hurting my feelings:/?

I'm afraid children often go through a period of being ungrateful little scroats. It's time to let her go, as she is growing up and living her own life. What she said about you being controlling and judgemental was probably not true but she is trying to push mummy away so she can be an adult with her boyfriend. Maybe you've coddled and spoilt her a bit. Now is the time to stand back and let her what she wants. If she wants to go and stay with his mum then it's up to her, just let her know you love her and will always be there for her and your grandchild. Don't allow yourself to become your daughter's doormat e.g free babysitting, and you being her personal ATM machine. You will look after her child occasionally but that's it. Spend your money on yourself and your husband take this opportunity to stop worrying about your selfish daughter and start travelling, go to all the places you've always wanted to go, buy new clothes have your hair done and turn her room into the gym or the office. If she wants to be selfish she can stand on her own two feet. It will be hard to stop freting over her as you have done this all your life, but you have to step back. Lean on your husband for support. You sound like a nice lady, and you deserve the best, Good luck.