Need some advice About pari-menopause please?

I'm 39 and have been suffering with this for about 6 months now. I can't take any kind of hormones, so I'd like to know if there is anything else that can help relieve symptoms. Hot flashes, weight gain, insane mood swings, fatigue. Any suggestions please? I feel like I'm losing my mind and I think my kids and husband have had just about all they can handle from me! Oh, and frequent migraines also. Thanks!